The 6th Love Language?
An additional way to feel loved
Hi Friends,
Many of us are familiar with the 5 Love Languages (if not, you can take a quiz here). They are Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Gifts, and Quality Time. But recently there’s been talk online of another way to feel loved: Being Known.
I identified with this immediately. I’m looking for people who really want to know me. Have you ever heard someone say their partner knows them better than they know themself? That. I want that.
So this week, we’re doing something a little different:
Green Flags to Look For If You’d Like To Feel Known:
They know their Big 3. The “Big 3” go beyond your astrological sign to describe your moon, sun, and rising signs. Whether or not you’re into astrology, this is just one way for someone to signal to you that they’ve done some work to figure out who they are and how they best relate to people.
They know their love languages. Again, another example of signaling to you that they know themselves and have access to language that will help them know you.
They’re in therapy. A person who is in the process of healing and working through their trauma will likely have empathy for your struggle. That empathy can help you feel seen.
They recognize you as a fully-formed person. Your culture, how and where you were raised, your interests, and how you spend your time. Instead of existing as a temporary void filler, your interests, wants, and needs are considered.
They listen to your cultural sensitivities. Consider this example: I’m Nigerian, and Nigerians do something called spraying (showering people with money) at events as a way of fundraising. If a potential partner even jokingly suggested that the act resembled a strip club, I would be out. Someone who doesn’t romanticize or diminish your culture is respecting you for who you are. It’s alright to be curious, so long as it’s in a way that doesn’t make you feel like a spectacle or put you in a fishbowl.