Be safe this cuffing season
How to spot a covert narcissist
Hi Friends,
It’s that time of the year when people are looking for partners to cuddle up with, keeping warm against the harsh cold: Cuffing Season!
During Cuffing Season, it’s easy to feel desperate for anyone to snuggle. (I might even do it for the matching pajamas and holiday cards alone.) An otherwise confident person becomes prime prey for a love-bombing narcissist.
Red Flags For Spotting a Covert Narcissist
They have a sob story. They’re “unlucky in love”, “haven’t found the one”, a “hopeless romantic”, etc. They just don’t know why all the women in their lives “friend zone them.” Phrases like this are meant to garner sympathy and quickly gain your trust.
They have a “crazy” ex. If your new potential boo is full of stories early on about how all the other women in his life were too sensitive or too emotional, RUN. The projection is real with this one.
They come on too strong. This can be a sign of love bombing. You may feel like he’s trying to buy your affection with fancy dinners and gifts. He may even take you on a trip after knowing you for just a couple of months. Their goal here is to get your heart invested before your mind has time to catch up.
They’re resistant to negative feedback. Test this out by telling your date about something they’ve done that has hurt you or bothered you. How do they react? Do they gaslight you? Do they get upset? This person will never be accountable for their actions, no matter how they harm you.
They’re critical of others. Constantly vocalizing judgments of others hints at insecurities and projection. If he’s pointing out how other women you pass are ugly or your waitress is “fat,” it’s only a matter of time before he turns that unsolicited criticism toward you.